Men Made For More Podcast Episode 108: Supercharge Your GoalsDec 15, 2020
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Have you ever found yourself setting goals just because you feel like you have to? Do you set goals and then quickly lose the inspiration behind them? Do you just find you have a hard time setting or sticking to goals? Most guys we work with struggle with connecting the dots between setting and achieving goals. While there is a lot that goes into setting the right goals, and actually achieving them, today we are going to be talking about one commonly missed component - EMOTION. Listen up to learn how to use emotion to supercharge your goals and bring them to life.
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Men Made For More Podcast Episode 110: Supercharge Your Goals
[00:00:00] Dave: [00:00:00] Welcome to the Men Made For More podcast, a show designed by men for men. Looking to get strong, feel confident and live a high performing life as men we face many challenges as we try and strive for better life. Want to live a meaningful and confident life, but don't know where to start. You've lost your physical and mental edge.
[00:00:18] That's keeping you from living out your full potential. You're tired of talking about doing big things and you're ready to start living it, but the Men Made For More podcast. Our goal is to teach you how to strengthen your body, your mind, and your purpose on your way to reaching your full potential.
[00:00:34] It's time to start living as a man you know, you can be to help lift up those that matter most in your life. In this podcast, we'll leave no stone unturned as to what it takes to get out of your comfort zone and step into living a strong, competent, and high-performing life. We'll focus on the topics that matter most for helping you develop into the man you were made to be.
[00:00:52] Our goal is to not only build strong men physically, but to help coach and develop strong friends, sons, brothers, fathers, isn't [00:01:00] owners, and professionals in every area of your life. I'm your host, Dr. Dave Paczkowski proudhusband, business owner, physical therapist and strength coach with a passion for helping other men strengthen their body, their mind, and their purpose, wherever you're at in your journey from member that you're made for more.
[00:01:16] I'm excited to have you here with us today and let's dive into today's episode of the Men Made For More podcast.
[00:01:24]What's up guys. Welcome to the show today. I'm excited to use these last few weeks here. These last few weeks of December, at least with the solo episodes to talk a little more on goal setting and how to improve your goal setting process. How to learn how to properly set and actually achieve the goals that you set, because whether we like it or not, at this time of the year, along with Christmas, along with holiday craziness comes a new calendar year comes new, a new hopes, resolutions goals, dreams.
[00:01:56] And I love that. I love that. Uh, [00:02:00] there's, there's that hope in the, in the air with it, a new calendar year, it gives us the chance to reflect and kind of redirect it the direction we want to be heading. Uh, but at the same time, most people just don't know how to properly set or don't know how to, uh, continue to review, refine and optimize their goals so that they actually achieve them and want to use these last few weeks.
[00:02:23] Like I said, to, uh, bring your goals to life. Because whether we know it or not, we're all, we're all goal setters. And if you think you're not, you, you still probably have some goals or dreams that you want to achieve for a lot of people, even if it's something as simple as you know, I want to buy a house someday.
[00:02:39] I want to start a family someday. I want to get fit, or I want to retire someday. Any of these, you know, someday things, these goals, these hopes, we have our goal setting in a way this, you know, goal setting doesn't have to be this, this formal process. Although I think if you want to achieve these things, if you want to, uh, take this far away [00:03:00] goal and bring some life into it, then I think you do need more of a process behind it.
[00:03:05] And, uh, this is, this is where most guys are lacking. Most guys can set goals. They have these things they want to do. It's a someday I want to start a business someday. I want to get in this kind of shape. I want to look this way or be this weight or like financial goals, buy a house, start a family, all these things, was mentioning.
[00:03:24] But you know, some of these things might just happen. You know, some things like, you know, starting a family, there's a better chance that might just happen. Then. Uh, something like starting a business takes a lot of intentionality. It takes a lot To do it right. Takes a lot of, uh, piecing together this, this big kind of ambiguous goal.
[00:03:41] And then deciding what do I need to do today to start to make that happen? there's a lot of things that go into this. today, want to talk about how do you start by supercharging your goals and bringing some emotion into them. Because a lot of guys, I talk to their goals are kind of flat.
[00:03:56] They're kind of dull and they don't have the [00:04:00] emotion behind them. When I hear guys talking about their goals, maybe it's something that they feel like they have to do, or, you know, it feels like the right thing to do, but they're missing that emotion. And I can tell when, you know, when I talked to guys on the phone or in person, uh, I can tell when a goal excites them, just based on how their, their tone of voice changes, you know, talking with them, how their eyes kind of light up when it's a goal.
[00:04:22] That's really important. I think all of our goals should, should be this way because once we can supercharge some emotion into them, once we can start to juice these goals up, then we can talk the process. Then we can talk the, the X's and O's the different, you know, process we use of, uh, finding a way of goal setting to the now of making these things a reality.
[00:04:41] But the X's and O's can't happen if you're not excited about them. The X's and O's are going to be terrible and mundane. If you're not even excited about the big goal. And today that's what we're going to be getting at. Because once we have emotion, then we can talk in the coming weeks about how to start to work this process a [00:05:00] little more into reality.
[00:05:01] But if you're not excited about it, It's not going to get you very far because goals need to, bring in emotion behind them. They need to light you up. They need to excite you. They should probably scare you even in a little ways, uh, that good, healthy fear of stretching you a little bit, because if we're not setting goals that are stretching us, if we're not setting goals that move us closer to the person we want to become.
[00:05:22] Then that's where I talk to guys to become stagnant. Guys become complacent. They're just kind of going through life and not really, you know, working towards anything in many years of their lives. I think we should have goals across all areas of our lives and our relationships and our finances, our work, or our business and our fitness and our spiritual life emotionally, mentally, I think we need goals in all these areas.
[00:05:48] But at least have at least have a goal in one of the areas that really excites you. I think that's, that's powerful on its own, if you're missing, if you're missing that, then we're gonna, we're gonna find ways today to [00:06:00] get ya. Get you amped up about setting at least one goal. You want to do setting one thing that you want to work towards because some people don't like the idea of goals or people want to call it different things.
[00:06:10] Uh, but you know, goals bring, bring life because they move as closer to that person that we want to become. And when we have that vision of, of who do I want to be, then we start to break down the goals of what goals would help me be that person. And then goals bring accountability to actually doing that.
[00:06:26] A lot of guys are missing, missing accountability, either with themselves, with a group around them. I've talked about this a little bit last week on the show, if you're missing that accountability, then it's going to make it. Make it really tough to, you know, move forward when the, when the going gets tough, but, uh, having the community around you, because we talked about last week and then this week when gonna talk about bringing some emotion into your goals.
[00:06:49] And when I talk about why this is so important, a few of the guys in our coaching group right now, we've been setting some for our, all our blitz coaching challenge here. At the end of the year, we've been setting [00:07:00] some, you know, short-term kind of sprint type goals. These. six week type things.
[00:07:04] And then also in the coming weeks, we're going to be gearing up for our full yearly goal-setting process. Our process of, okay. What's, what's all the things you want to accomplish in 2021. And then how do we get this, this game plan, this laser-focused game plan to Take us through becoming, those goals becoming a reality.
[00:07:22] And that's, that's an exciting time of the year. I'm excited to go, go through that with our coaching group. when I was talking to some of the guys in the group, uh, when we even set that the six week sprint type goals is that a lot of them were lacking of emotion. It was, it was kind of a, I kind of want to, you know, it would be nice to, it would be nice to do this, or, uh, You know, in different areas of their lives, trying to try to identify these things of kind of, that it would be nice to, or I'd like to, but nothing that, you know, really brought, brought fire.
[00:07:51] And that's, uh, that's when I got the inspiration to do this show because we need to be bringing emotion. We need to be doing these goals that, you know, really, [00:08:00] really amp us up and get us excited because, They're not going to, they're not going to be fun and you're not gonna push through and persevere when you need to, if every time you're review them, you're kind of like, why did I, why did I set that one?
[00:08:11] Or that's not even something I want to be doing, or that's what that I'm really excited about. And that brings me to a point of, we need to have a higher standard for our goals. We need to make sure that the goals we're setting, you don't have to have a list of cause it's a problem. I see. And I even saw with some of the guys in the coaching group is a list, a mile long of all these things that they want to accomplish.
[00:08:31] That's great. You can have your, you know, life to do list your ambitions, your things. I think it's, I think it's cool to get some of that stuff on paper, uh, just to be like, Oh, it'd be, it'd be nice someday to do that or to do this, but if we're talking actually, what do we want to accomplish? What do we want to do this year, this month?
[00:08:51] And when we can, when we can get clear on that and we can bring emotion to it, uh, that's a powerful process that, uh, That you can, you can use to [00:09:00] take your life to the next level and really level up in these different areas. Really see some massive change when done correctly. And I'm excited to, to go through this with, with our coaching group, but also, uh, I'll talk about the end, but there's a link in the show notes there for a free download for our goal setting process we use, if you guys want to go through that individually, highly recommend it.
[00:09:18] Uh, but wherever you're at, we want to talk about. How do you actually juice up those goals? How do we actually supercharge them? And this is with emotion and today want to go through just some, some general guidelines to get you started. if you're feeling stuck with this, if you're feeling like, yeah, I guess my goals don't really bring emotion.
[00:09:35] I guess my goals don't really amp me up the way that they should, or maybe you haven't gone through a formal goal setting process. And maybe this is the first time, and this is the time to be able to bring some emotion, bring these things to life. And I've, I've talked about this before, and I'm gonna mention it probably on every goal-setting show we do, but 2020 to 2021 is not a, it's not a magical [00:10:00] time.
[00:10:00] It's not a, a time where we have to set goals. I think this is something we should be doing regularly. You need to be reviewing these things regularly, but a calendar year, a change of a birthday, a change of a decade. Those things are, are good opportunities to really reflect. It gives you some more concrete start and end timeframes to be like, okay, what.
[00:10:18] Which did I get done? What went well? What did I struggle with? And this reflective process then brings, uh, brings to life that the things that the real ambitions that, that you might have. So let's talk through some of these guidelines here today. If you guys are feeling stuck with this, I hear some, here's some things to consider when getting started when goals can't be objective.
[00:10:39] Make sure you're using emotion. So objective goals, you know, things like, uh, I want to lift this much weight. I want to weigh this much. I want to run this fast in a mile time. Those goals are easy to say, did I accomplish it? Yes or no. I want to have this, this much money. I want to purchase a house.
[00:10:57] Those things we can look back and say, yes, I did that. [00:11:00] But emotion becomes especially important when those goals are a little more subjective compared to objective. This can be things like relationships. If you're in a, you know, if you're, if you're married to your spouse, it's hard to say. Objectively did our relationship doing better and there's, you know, there's some ways you can do this.
[00:11:20] You can use a zero to 10 thing and rank it and there's different things. But at the end of the day, that's still very subjective. And it's hard to say like, is our relationship improving is, you know, in my, in my spiritual walk and my relationship with God or with whatever I believe in is that, is that improving those things are a little more ambiguous or a little more vague.
[00:11:40] And this is where emotion becomes. Really powerful. So in these cases, you definitely want to use emotion. You want to be able to, you know, juice it up in ways that that gets you excited. Uh, things like I want to be a, I want to be a heroic husband. I want to be a warrior of God. I want to, you know, be a man active in my faith.
[00:11:59] I want to [00:12:00] be, you know, superhero for, for my wife, for my spouse. And these are the things that can, you know, That's just some general examples, but you'll find these things, use words, use things that, uh, that actually gets you excited. And these don't have to be, uh, you know, the goals don't have to be so like bland.
[00:12:19] I, I see people write them and they're like, I want to improve my relationship. And it's like, great. One. That's not one, that's not objective two. There's no emotion behind that. So what's. How is that going to carry you through on the, on the bad days when your, when your spouse is, uh, maybe irritating you, you know, me, me and Lindsey, we don't, we don't ever get to the point of irritating each other, but, uh, when you're, when your spouse is irritating, you, um, I want to improve my relationship is not going to get you there, but if you want to be, you know, a heroic husband or someone who's, uh, there, you know, Knight in shining, armor, whatever, whatever gets you excited, those things are going to carry you through a little better than.
[00:12:57] Uh, simply saying I want to improve our [00:13:00] relationship. Uh, so that this works really well with the things that are a little harder to use objectively a second thing, choose something that sounds good to you. And that's something that looks cool or sounds good to others, or you think others are going to want to hear.
[00:13:13] And I run into this one a lot, personally, with guys I work with, they want the goals to sound good or they're presenting their goals to, to me when I'm coaching them. And they want them to sound. They want me to get excited about them. And I think, I think this happens when, when you're excited about a goal, I'm going to get excited about it just because you're excited about it and it's important to you, but if you're trying to make it sound good to others and it doesn't, it doesn't tug at your heartstrings and get you excited.
[00:13:39] Then again, that's not going to get you through when the, when the going gets tough. So make sure these are not just sounding good to others or look cool on paper, but just pick something that sounds right to you. Something that gets you excited. Third thing, uh, to, to mention here, make sure you're finding your way.
[00:13:55] And this is included in that goal setting process that I've linked up in the show notes. Uh, but you [00:14:00] want to continue to ask why that goal is important. And I recommend usually at least five ways deep, we call it of say, you want to. Lose weight. Okay. Why do you want to lose weight? Well, I want to, uh, I want to be healthy.
[00:14:15] It's like, wait, why, why is being healthy important to you? Well, I want to, uh, you know, be, be confident. I want my spouse find me attractive and well, why is that important? Why is it important that your family sees you as healthy? And as you continue to ask, why do these things you'll eventually get to something that you say like, yes, that's the, that's the real reason why it could be.
[00:14:36] You know, my, my parents were never, were never healthy and I want to be an inspiration for my kids as they grow up and, uh, affect our health for generations to come. And whatever it is for you, as you get deeper into these actual why's of why you're setting the goal, then you start to find something really powerful in there.
[00:14:54] Uh, you start to kind of uncover a, a gem in there of like, yes, this is, this is why I'm doing [00:15:00] it. I'm not going to the gym at 5:00 AM to just lose a few pounds. I'm doing it because of this bigger reason. And those, that's the reason you want to bring in to your daily, your daily process, as you're thinking about hitting the snooze alarm, as you're thinking about missing a day, those are the things that are going to drive you forward.
[00:15:18] And this is where emotion becomes really powerful to be able to do that. Fourth thing. If a goal doesn't excite you then find a new goal. And I find people a lot just setting goals, because they're like, well, I need one in fitness. And then he went in my relationships. I need one spiritually and emotionally and mentally and in finances.
[00:15:37] But if it's not really exciting, you I'd rather, you go. All in on one goal, the thing that fires you up, thing that gets you excited. If it's starting that business next year, make that year your big thing and you can't ignore these other areas of your life. You can't just let your fitness and your relationships and everything go.
[00:15:54] If you're, if you're going that route, but find that one thing and go all in on it. Get, [00:16:00] get something that excites you. And if you find, if you're struggling with this, you write down a bunch of things and nothing excites you. Don't don't rush this process, let it, let it happen. Continue to review it, continue to reflect on it.
[00:16:12] And eventually you'll find that thing. That is something that excites you. And that's what you want to want to go with. Don't just set goals to set goals. Last thing, review your goals regularly, and don't be afraid to tweak them. This one's super important. And a reason why so many new year's resolutions and things fail because people get all amped up when it's, new year, new me, and they start setting these goals and they write them all out and then they never review them, no process in place for how to evaluate, if they're on track for them, how to get a daily and a weekly plan in place to make sure they're implementing the right habits, the right strategies to actually bring these goals to life.
[00:16:52] And then all of a sudden. Months go by. And they're like, Oh yeah, I set that thing back in January and I haven't really done a good job with that and it kind of fell off. [00:17:00] So you need to make sure you're reviewing these goals regularly and. These goals aren't set in stone either. Like I said, the new year's is not a magic time.
[00:17:08] It's not like, you know, take some, take some of the pressure off yourself. It's not like all these goals I set on in December are going to, you know, what, if, what if in March, I, I want to do something different. Cool, set a new goal and you know, do something different. This is not a, a magical time, but this is something that you have to regularly review and tweak because if you find a goal that brings the right emotion, that juices you up and.
[00:17:32] You're going to know, because every day you're going to review it. You're going to be like every day, every week, you're gonna look at these and be like, yes, this is, this is still something that lights me up. And if it's not, then just make some tweaks to it. Maybe it's just a tweak in the wording. Maybe it's a tweak in the actual goal, but don't be afraid to adjust these things because these things are not set in stone.
[00:17:53] So guys, there's a few at least guidelines to get you started on bringing some emotion into your goal is to start to supercharge your goals because that's, what's going to [00:18:00] help. This is going to help make these things a reality. And that's the, that's the fun part. Uh, the goal setting process is not, is not the end all be all.
[00:18:07] It's not, there's no one magical goal setting process. We have the, the one, uh, big one that we use, but, you know, there's, there's lots of ways to do this, but they have to have. Emotion behind them. You have to be able to feel it deep inside you to know that you're on the right track. So imagine instead of, you know, this new year, just setting goals and letting them fall aside, setting resolutions and letting them fade away.
[00:18:31] Imagine. using emotion to supercharge these things, to set these goals and actually crush your goals and to do it with a level of excitement, that's contagious for yourself, contagious to others to see this is where incredible momentum is built. And this is what we need from, from us as guys and for the ladies listening to, this is what we need as, as humans to level up to bring each other, along for the ride to, you know, set these things, to stretch ourselves, to set goals that are bigger than ourselves.
[00:18:58]that's a fun place to be [00:19:00] when we have the process in place to actually follow through on it. And we'll be talking about that, uh, coming forward in, in some of the. The upcoming weeks, but if you guys want a step-by-step process on this highly recommend, go to the link in the show notes.
[00:19:13] It's our goal-setting PDF is in there. There's a video of myself talking through the whole process, too. It's the same goal setting process I use with my coaching clients, Lindsey and I use and are in our marriage, in our business, uh, businesses now that we have, and it's a. Uh, it's a really powerful tool.
[00:19:31] So highly recommend you guys go check that out. It'll take you through the whole process and, uh, it'll walk you through it step by step to start to get clear because now's the time to do it. Don't wait for December 31st, too late at that point, uh, to, you know, start getting a real plan in place. So go check that out as always reach out.
[00:19:47] If you guys have any questions, I appreciate all you guys listening in and I'll talk to you later this week.
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