Men Made For More Podcast Episode 134: Improve Focus and Results with Review and ReflectionMar 16, 2021
Men Made For More Podcast Episode 134: Improve Focus and Results with Review and Reflection
Most men are falling way short of their potential by failing to implement a regular review and reflection process. Those that are performing at a high level in ALL areas of their life are asking the tough questions and regularly reviewing progress. It’s not enough to just perform really well in one area of your life while neglecting the others. To live a meaningful life - you have to be continuing to strive for better across every area. Want to know one of the best ways to do this? Implement some self-accountability through a regular review and reflection process. Listen up to today’s podcast to learn why this is important and how to get started.
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I know this is a loaded topic with no one size fits all approach. If you guys want some specific guidance - text me at (760) 477-4361 and we’ll talk through how to apply this specifically to your life and situation. I can’t guarantee I’ll get back to you the same day - but I’ll do my best to get back to you as soon as I can to help you through it.
Men Made For More Podcast Episode 134: Improve Focus and Results with Review and Reflection
[00:00:00] Dave: Hey there mighty man. I'm your host, Dr. Dave Paczkowski founder of Men Made for more coaching, our business helps husbands level up their life. Their leadership and their legacy in marriage and in business. The purpose of this podcast is to bring together like-minded men that feel destined for big things in their life to provide you the resources and community that you need to lead yourself, your family and your business.
[00:00:27] If you've ever felt overwhelmed, frustrated, lost, or alone on your journey to a better and more purposeful life, you're in the right spot. You weren't designed to be average. So it's time to quit living that way today. I'm giving you permission to unlock your true potential and step into all that you were made for.
[00:00:45]What's up guys. Welcome to today's episode of the men made for more podcasts, stoked to have you with me here today. So Debbie listening in and investing in yourself, I were talking about something highly practical and something highly useful [00:01:00] today that many clients I work with are missing. And that's a formal review and reflection process for your days, your weeks, your months, your year.
[00:01:10] And we're going to talk about how that looks some examples for it and how you can improve your focus, improve your productivity, and improve the results you're getting. With this review and reflection process or this rhythm that I like to call it, and most men are falling way short of their potential by failing to implement this review and reflection process.
[00:01:30] And those that are performing at a high level in all areas of their life are asking the tough questions. Every single day, every single week. And they're reviewing their progress regularly. Think of someone in your life who's maybe seems to be performing at a, a different, different level, like a whole notch up above where you're at.
[00:01:48] I have these people in my life. I think we all should have people that stretch us to grow in that way, that challenge us and these people that are really just crushing it, not just in one area, but they seem to be doing. Everything with the high degree of intentionality and [00:02:00] purpose, those people are, whether it's a conscious process or a subconscious process, they're continuing to reflect, review, adjust their plan.
[00:02:09] And I know for some, it might be subconscious, but all the people I talked to, there's a formal process in place for this, of how they go about reviewing and reflecting and adjusting their plan. I think, I think I know, I should say that in order to live a meaningful life, you have to be continuing to strive for better to do better, to demand more in terms of your results and how you're showing up as a person across all these areas of your life.
[00:02:34] And that you want to know one of the best ways to do this. It's through some self accountability and self accountability can often happen through this regular review process, this reflection. And I want to talk today about how you can even start to implement that and why it's so important because it's not, it's not good enough to just perform well in one area, if you're crushing it financially, but your health is a mess and your relationships are falling apart.
[00:02:58] That's not success to me guys. And [00:03:00] same thing. If you have meaningful relationships, but you're broke and you have stress over paying the bills. Like guys, that's a, that's a problem too. And there's, there's always going to be one area or multiple areas that we're struggling a little more with. But if we can review on this, if we can identify what those areas are and identify a plan to take action towards improving them guys, we can start to see more fulfillment across all those areas of your life.
[00:03:24] And if you've ever felt. Overwhelmed with too much on your plate or maybe unable to balance work life and all of these other demands or unsure of if you're even heading in the right direction. This is a common one for a lot of guys that I talked to when I start coaching with them is they're like, I'm doing a lot.
[00:03:41] I'm like trying a lot. I'm listening to these podcasts, I'm reading these books and I'm taking action. But if I don't even know if I'm, I don't know if I'm going the right way, like I don't, I don't know where, where I'm heading or if these steps are actually leading me closer to that. And guys, this is something that one of the first places that I start with them is, Hey, we got to, we got to [00:04:00] first identify that, you know, that vision and break down that, uh, goal setting process that we talk about of, okay, what is that?
[00:04:05] You know, what's that big vision? How are we going to break that into small goals, meaningful action steps. I've done that in a past podcast here a couple of weeks ago. If you guys want to check that one out, but once we have that in place, it's important to implement these. Review processes too, to know, because we're going to start to take action at some point in our life, in an area of our life.
[00:04:23] And we're not going to always know if it's the best thing, but we have to be reviewing and reflecting on, on what's working. And this has, you know, a few powerful things. One, this offers accountability. How do you know if you're, if you're staying true to what you're, what you're supposed to be doing, if you're not reviewing it, you can't, uh, you can't take a test in school and then just never look at the results.
[00:04:45] Never look at what you did wrong and expect you get anything more out of it. It sucks to, to face the, you know, to face the reality and to have to look at those things that maybe you're not doing as well with as you want to, but that's going to create a new level of accountability for yourself. That's [00:05:00] going to.
[00:05:00] Help you to grow. Another thing is learning. Again, if we want to always be learners, we need to be continual learners. We need to be lifelong learners, SAS, to be something that we're doing through listening to books, through listening to podcasts like this one to go into coaching courses, hiring coaches, doing seminars, workshops, doing whatever you can to.
[00:05:21] Learn and grow. But this review process is where we get the application. This is where we see, okay, Hey, I read that book last week. How am I applying it? What can I do to apply this? What's one thing I can apply from this, this book. What's one thing I can apply from this podcast. And that's where I started to get into the take action takeaways.
[00:05:40] Just to remind you guys that it's all about action we can consume, but we have to apply that knowledge to make any meaningful progress. Third thing this does. And top of accountability and learning is allows you to pivot quickly. And pivoting is a big piece of, of life. It's a big piece of being able to [00:06:00] put your foot in the ground and either plant and keep going full speed ahead in that direction you're already heading, or maybe you need to plant your foot in the ground and slightly change your course a little bit.
[00:06:09] And what this review process will help you guys to do is see when you need to pivot a little bit, when you take a slightly different direction, or if you need to keep pushing full steam ahead. And the reason that's so important is if you don't know that if you don't stop in your day and your week to reflect a little bit in a process where you've come, where you're going, then you might be pushing full steam ahead towards a direction you don't want to be going.
[00:06:34] It might be, you're crushing it in business and you just have your head down, you're grinding, but your marriage is falling apart. You're drying distant from your kids. Your, your health is falling apart. That's not a direction I want to be going in. You want to pivot in those cases to be able to say, okay, how I might have to sacrifice a little bit of time towards my business or my work, but these things are important.
[00:06:52] I have to be doing them, or it might be a fact of that. You're just going and going and going. And you're building a business that [00:07:00] isn't really what you love or you're doing work that isn't. Really what gets you fired up? All these things are going to be brought to light in some kind of review and reflection process.
[00:07:10] So that's why it's so important. And I see this all the time. I implemented a formal review process for myself, maybe, maybe a year or so at this point a year or so ago. And it's been extremely impactful for me being able to step back and process of not just putting content out there and not just trying to drive the business forward, not just, uh, you know, hoping my relationship with Lindsay is, is improving, but actually.
[00:07:34] Actually reviewing that, asking myself the tough questions of how did I get better in these areas? What areas am I still struggling in? What, uh, what direction do I need to change a little bit? Where do I need to pivot to continue to grow? And that accountability for myself has been huge for. Uh, my, my success and I don't just say success from a business standpoint, a results standpoint, a fitness standpoint.
[00:07:57] But when we talk success across all those [00:08:00] areas of my life, all those areas that we have that we need to be focusing on, that's what success means to me. And I have a coaching client. I worked with recently who was finding a lot of success in their business, but he was struggling his relationships. He didn't feel really close to his wife, uh, had, has a young daughter that was kind of, you know, D wasn't getting the quality time that he wanted and was just struggling with his health and his work-life balance and was just working so hard, still in a nine to five job, trying to start up a side hustle to be able to go full-time with that and the balance.
[00:08:34] Wasn't good. But we talked about having some kind of process in place like this, to be able to say, Hey, what do you, what do you really want? Like, I know you're, you're building this business for your family and for your family's future, but that won't mean anything if. By the time you get there, those relationships are already broken to a point where maybe they can't be restored.
[00:08:53] And this is a big aha moment for him. It's a big aha moment for a lot of people that I work with when we bring this to [00:09:00] light of, yeah, maybe it's maybe it's not all about this thing that I thought was so important. But guys, I get it. We can get so in the weeds on a goal and a vision, we get hungry. We want to drive forward.
[00:09:11] Uh, that can be at a health goal, a business goal. If you're anything like me, you just take it and you run with it. And guys, that's great. That's what, uh, that's just gonna make you successful. But that's only going to make you successful if you can harness that and apply that to all areas of your life. So I want to talk about, uh, the, the different rhythms that you need.
[00:09:30] You need to, I can't say you need to, I would, I would strongly recommend you're going to benefit from applying to these things. You guys don't have to do anything, but if you just listen to this, if you just think that things are going to magically work out on their own. I'm going to let you know, it's either not going to happen or it might take longer than you want it to, or you might end up in a place that isn't exactly where you were setting out to set out to go.
[00:09:54] So we're gonna talk through daily first, our daily review, we have daily, weekly, monthly, [00:10:00] quarterly, and yearly, but for our daily, I like a beginning of the day and end of the day reflection. Now, before we get into any of the specifics for this, some of the specific questions you can ask, this is going to vary in terms of how much time you have.
[00:10:16] This could be actually writing down. I've talked in the past. I really think there's power in journaling and getting pen to paper, but this can be something that you recite in your head, in the shower. It doesn't even have to take any time. You can just ask yourself these questions to start to give yourself an answer.
[00:10:31] Start to think about those things. This can take a minute. This can take 10 minutes. It doesn't have to be a long. Drawn out process, because I know a lot of you guys are busy. You guys have a lot on your plate, but that's no excuse to just skip this stuff. So that being said at the beginning of the day, you want to want to look ahead to your day and think about who's who's the man.
[00:10:51] I want to show up as today. How can I inject intentionality into my day? I know my schedule is I have my schedule laid out where can I be more [00:11:00] intentional my day? And what am I going to do to progress a meaningful goal or dream that I have some of the sample questions I have. And there's, there's no set.
[00:11:10] Questions with us. You guys can do whatever fits your life, your circumstance. If you're really struggling with maybe your health or you're struggling with taking action in your business, maybe that needs to be your, your, uh, question at the beginning of every day is what can I, what can I do to be healthier today?
[00:11:25] If that's something you're struggling with in your health, that's a great question to ask. What can I do to be more healthy today? Maybe that's, I'm going to, I'm going to walk instead of, you know, take my car to that place. I'm going to. Yeah, choose the salad over something else. I'm going to get the burger without the bun.
[00:11:39] Like there's, there's a dozen ways. This can look, I'm gonna, I'm going to work out for 10 minutes or do a hundred pushups over the course of a day. But when you ask these things, your subconscious subconscious mind starts to go to work. You start to find ways to implement some of this because it's front of mind.
[00:11:56] If you never ask these things, you can go through a week. And a lot of [00:12:00] you've probably been there where how many times does a week go by and you kind of reflect back. You're exhausted at the end of the week. And you're like, what did I like really get done this week? Like, yeah, I did a lot of work. I, I made some money.
[00:12:12] Like what, what meaningful stuff did I get done? And that's what separates those high achievers, those high performers, those people that are successful in all the areas of their life is they're not leaving this up to chance. They're proactively taking action on this. So beginning of the day, you can ask things like the questions I've already mentioned.
[00:12:29] Some other ones. How can I be an unexpected blessing for someone today? Talk about a way to light up your day and light up the day of those around you being an unexpected blessing for someone every day, give someone that, that pick up the phone and call someone, let them know you're thinking of them, send them a video text, uh, you know, get someone's coffee and in line little, little things that can go a long way if you know your schedule and you know, what's coming up.
[00:12:52] Find ways to be that unexpected blessing. Another thing, what area of my life am I specifically going to focus on today and how [00:13:00] that's a kind of, I was talking about earlier with how do I be more healthy or how do I improve my business a little bit today? How do I work on my business or on my side hustle today?
[00:13:09] Cause you might be working a nine to five right now and you might just have a dream or a vision that you're trying to start up every day. If it's important, you, you should be finding some time to do that. That might be, I'm going to reach out to three people and. You know, see, see if, uh, if they can help me with building a website with, uh, you know, connecting me with potential clients or potential referral sources within my, within my industry.
[00:13:31] Those are some of the things you gotta be asking yourself. Or when I like a lot, what can I do to step outside of my comfort zone today? This one will get you far. I've currently finished up a comfort zone. Challenge has been really awesome for myself and some of the other guys in our community. And this one's great because.
[00:13:48] Can out of our comfort zone is where we grow. That's where the magic happens. And think if you did something, imagine doing something every single day to get out of your comfort zone. Just a little bit. It might seem small at first, but the [00:14:00] things that are getting you outside of your comfort zone today, A few weeks down the road are going to be small, insignificant things, and you'll find yourself doing bigger things and bigger things that maybe one day would have scared you a whole lot more.
[00:14:12] And that's a, that's the power of a question like that. So there's some ideas for beginning of the day, for the end of the day, simple questions. Where could I have improved? Look back at your day. Think back to the moments, maybe, you know, for me, maybe I, I snapped at Lindsay low, too much. My, my tone was sharp.
[00:14:28] I didn't, you know, I didn't love her, treat her the way I want. I could think back to that conversation and be like, okay, where, what was going on? Okay. I was, I was stressed over some work stuff. What could I have done better? Well, I could have, uh, you know, I could have taken a breath before, you know, just, just saying something I could have apologized, I could apologize more sincerity.
[00:14:46] Those are some things that you can reflect on in relationships. You can look at, maybe you had a sales call that didn't go well where we're kind of improving that. What, you know, what, what didn't go well, and these are the things that are going to help you to grow because when we just put those things out of [00:15:00] mind and say, Oh, well it happened, uh, hopefully I'll do better next time.
[00:15:04] It just doesn't happen. You gotta be intentional with these things. Other good questions. What grateful moments that I have because gratitude has such a, such a powerful connection to it in terms of our wellbeing, focus on the good reflect on those things is sometimes we forget the grateful moments, the little things of like, wow.
[00:15:20] It was really nice to be able to get out during lunchtime and the sun was shining and it was just. I was just at a lot of peace at that time, or, yeah, we did something unexpected. We, you know, we, we did this activity or we just took some time to talk with each other and it was just like a really good conversation that was, was unexpected.
[00:15:37] Some of these grateful moments show up in small ways. Sometimes they're big things, but make sure you're taking note of these couple other questions you can use. How did I progress a meaningful goal or dream this ties back with the beginning of the day. Check-in because you say, okay, what am I going to do today too?
[00:15:53] Push myself to grow in a certain area. And then, you know, at the end of the day, you're going to have to answer to yourself,
[00:16:00] [00:15:59] Thanks for listening today, guys, unbelieving that even if you apply one thing from today's show, you're taking one step closer to living as the man you were made to be meaningful change doesn't happen overnight. So keep showing up and keep consistent every single day until good things start to happen.
[00:16:16] If you haven't already taken 60 seconds to write a review on whatever platform you're listening on, goes a long way in growing this podcast and reaching other men, just like you, that are hungry for more in their life. Do you have any questions on today's show feedback or content you want to see more of shoot me a text.
[00:16:33] Yeah, text me (760) 477-4361 at (760) 477-4361. Let me know that you're listening to it. And so I can personally thank you for your support of myself and the show. That's it for today, guys, it's time to raise your standard for yourself. Stop settling for just getting by, go all in on your passions in the Lightroom made for a lot of you guys and talk to you soon.
[00:17:00] [00:16:59] what did I do to actually move that dream forward? And that little bit of accountability, even though it's with yourself, knowing that that question's coming can help you. Uh, find ways to do it.
[00:17:10] I've I've had days just knowing that I'm asking this question and this isn't exactly the purpose of this, but in all transparency there's days where I'm at the end of my Workday, I'm about to shut it down. And I go, shoot, I know I have this review process coming up. I'm going to ask myself. What'd I do to progress a dream today.
[00:17:26] I don't feel like I did anything yet. So I'll take one, one imperfect action. I'll just help. I'll uh, I'll reach out to someone I'll I'll do something that's gonna gonna push business forward or push my mine and Lindsay's relationship forward, or, you know, call someone like these things are little, little things, but that little bit of accountability, I just don't want to answer myself and say, Well, you didn't do anything today.
[00:17:50] You do that enough times and you get, you get sick of doing it and we're not going to be perfect, but these are the types of questions that can keep you accountable in those ways. So moving on from daily, again, these [00:18:00] are just, uh, just some guideline questions. I encourage you guys to make your own. As we get in a weekly, monthly, quarterly, and yearly, these are all gonna look pretty similar.
[00:18:09] It's just going to be to the degree in the amount of time that you need to set, spend on it. So in general, For all these, you want to, uh, if you have your goals written down, you want to review goals. You want to review your big, big vision, that, that vision you have that picture you've painted, hopefully painted of what your future's going to look like.
[00:18:27] What's a, what's a 10 year goal or vision that you're working to. What does that look like? Smell, like, feel like tastes like all of these things. You want to be able to really feel these things you want to review that. In your weeks, months, quarterly and yearly reviews. You want to set your future vision and goals again, if you haven't done it, make sure you're casting that vision.
[00:18:48] You're updating your goals for the week saying, Hey, what are the three to five things I'm going to get done this week? Those three to five things that are going to push my vision forward, uh, issues and strategies is a, a great thing to address it. All of these [00:19:00] things. What, uh, what things are coming up.
[00:19:02] That's, that's getting in the way of my progress. What barriers do I have that you aren't letting me get in the shape? I want to be why I keep overeating? Why do I keep over eating? How well I'm keeping foods that I know I overeat around and I, uh, maybe I should just, you know, get rid of those things. And that's, those are the types of things you're going to just start to have this dialogue with yourself.
[00:19:22] A lot of times you guys know the answer. I help coach people through these types of things, but sometimes it's. It's not most of the time, it's not me actually coaching it's me just listening and talking them through it. And they come to the realization of like, Oh yeah, probably I probably don't need to do that.
[00:19:36] And I could probably do more of this. And it's like, yep. That's uh, that's exactly what we're going to do. And, uh, guys, there's, there's a lot of power in that. So those are some of the things for the weekly. Again, monthly, quarterly, and yearly are going to look the same, except for a month. You want to spend a little more time quarterly.
[00:19:53] You want a black, you know, we do this at least for, for our business and personal life. We take a four-hour chunk every quarter, Lindsay and I [00:20:00] to sit down and do this and yearly, we take, we take a full weekend, a full couple of days to, uh, to get away and really reflect on these things. We asking ourselves the same question.
[00:20:09] We look at our different businesses of what goals we have. We look at personally what we want to be doing. Uh, what. Uh, what things want to be doing as a, as a couple and as a family, uh, what other, you know, relationships we want to invest in, whether ways we want to give back, what other, uh, just life things do we do we have going on?
[00:20:28] And guys, this is, uh, this is something that doesn't take a ton of time. It does take energy. It does take asking the tough questions. It does take facing the mirror and confronting that. But time-wise, it doesn't have to take a lot of time daily. This is five minutes at the beginning of the day, five minutes at the end of the day, weekly, maybe you spend 30 minutes doing this monthly.
[00:20:48] You take an hour, a quarterly, you take four hours yearly. You take a couple of days guys on the scheme of a year. That's not a lot of time. But this creates laser focus for yourself. I've [00:21:00] seen this with so many clients. I've seen this in our businesses and in our marriage and our family. This is powerful stuff, guys.
[00:21:07] So I encourage you to take action on this. There's a lot of layers underneath this. I tried doing my best to compile this into a podcast episode, because this is, this is something. And with, with the clients I work with, we, there's a lot of fine tuning with this. This is by no means a, a perfect one size fits all approach.
[00:21:27] Being completely honest with you guys. But I just want this to start to create some, you know, some thought of how can you do this? What are some ways you can apply some of these things and no, there's not going to be perfect. You're going to try something and you'll say, Hey, that at works, that's, that's helping me.
[00:21:43] Or like, ah, I'm not really feeling these questions or feeling this process. That doesn't mean the whole. Thing doesn't work. That just means you have to find a different way to do it. So guys, if you need help, please, please reach out. Uh, my number is there in the show notes. I, I respond to all the texts I get related to the podcast.
[00:21:59] If you guys have [00:22:00] specific questions, reach out, we can, we can text real. We can jump on a call if we need to, to help talk you guys through this, because I know this is, this is a loaded topic, but guys has changed my life. This changes so many of my clients' lives. And I, I know it will change your life too, if you can.
[00:22:16] Implement it. So there's a, a couple of things I want from you guys. Take action. Takeaway number one, go download the made for more planner. There's a link in the show notes. It's free for you guys. It's a PDF planner that you guys can print out and you guys, or, you know, take the, take the template of it and write down in your notebook.
[00:22:33] If you prefer that. But this has some of those reflection questions on there. This has your, these I am statements we talk about of your vision, of what kind of life you want to be living of how you're doing across those different pillars or foundations of your life. And this, this has that monthly, quarterly yearly breakdown.
[00:22:50] So guys, that's the first take action. Takeaway, go download that. And second, if you guys have questions, please reach out DME on Instagram at Dr. Dave pack. Text me my number is there in the [00:23:00] show notes said, I, I love interacting with you guys. On the podcast. I thank you for those that do reach out because I love hearing that you're listening.
[00:23:07] I love hearing how you're growing, how you're working through things. So do not hesitate to reach out. I can't guarantee I'll get back to you right away. Uh, sometimes there's a lot of texts to get back to, and it takes me a couple of days to get back to those. But I promise I will reply personally to that and I will help you guys out in whatever way I can.
[00:23:25] So there's your two take action takeaways. If you guys do have questions, please reach out. But thanks for investing in yourself. Thanks for taking the time to grow because guys there's big things ahead for you. I know that I believe it. And I can't wait to hear the success stories as they come in. If you guys need anything, you know where to find me and enjoy the day, guys go crush it.
[00:23:47] I'll talk to y'all soon.
[00:23:48]Thanks for listening today, guys, unbelieving that even if you apply one thing from today's show, you're taking one step closer to living as the man you were made to be meaningful change doesn't happen overnight. So [00:24:00] keep showing up and keep consistent every single day until good things start to happen.
[00:24:04] If you haven't already taken 60 seconds to write a review on whatever platform you're listening on, goes a long way in growing this podcast and reaching other men, just like you, that are hungry for more in their life. Do you have any questions on today's show feedback or content you want to see more of shoot me a text.
[00:24:21] Yeah, text me (760) 477-4361 at (760) 477-4361. Let me know that you're listening to it. And so I can personally thank you for your support of myself and the show. That's it for today, guys, it's time to raise your standard for yourself. Stop settling for just getting by, go all in on your passions in the Lightroom made for a lot of you guys and talk to you soon.
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